I just want to pick up on Anya's comment about "when the excitement dies down and reality kicks in," even though it's off-topic, because it's important that yuo guys (and gals) should know this....

Anya isn't expressing an opinion here. It's an inescapable biological FACT. When you meet someone and fall in love, the limbic region of your brain starts to secrete a chemical (I forget its name) that gives you all the feelings we associate with falling in love: the high feeling, the heightened reality, the butterflies in the tummy in the loved one's presence, etc. After about three years with the same partner, production slows down and stops, and those feelings fade away.

So don't blame yourself or your partner when that first mad passion dies. It's just biology, and there's nothing either of you can do about it.