This is where it pays to know who you're in a relationship with. If you have different views of what "cheating" is, it's doomed. If you mind the synergy between esthetic preferences and sexual deviance, but your sig other is all about that, you know that there will be some serious disrespect going on. Jealous people are usually hypocrites, too. Selfish, selfish. You're not on the same page. You don't communicate with honesty. So on and so forth. Can we agree to disagree?

I want to add that I'm an occasional reader of this board and not in any kind of relationship right now.