Sex is a tool of manipulation. Never forget it.

Like many other places, you are supposed to simp after them, exactly like you are supposed to do with cis women. This way both camps validate themselves, by having sexual control over you.

Because supposedly they are sexually superior to you - so you must treat them as goddesses, but If you try to sexually connect with them (no matter how respectfully) then you are the problem.

You must act like a monkey performing a circus for the potential reward of sexual connection.

This is the basic mechanism that has been prevalent since early 2010s. Boomers do not understand the changes in the intersex dynamics, so they will probably come up with knee jerk reaction. But that has no bearing.