I have found some women really I mean really enjoy having their hair played with. They say guys never do it. What a waste! Running your fingers gently up both sides of their face then up into their hair and bringing their hair into a ponytail at the top and gently pulling on it seems to be a favorite. Also, running your fingers up the back of their head as in a massage while gently pulling it while kissing them on the side of the neck and ears them seems to work. I enjoy that too because I can also pull her head close and breathe in her hair. I would rather do that while they give me a hand job then get head. I also enjoy day old hair when her natural scent and some of her natural oils start to appear.