Sort of. Most people like having their hair played with. It just has to be the right situation. If you go up to someone in a public place and out of the blue nervously ask to touch their hair it probably won't go over well.

I used to be really shy about my interest in hair. In my head it was taboo and off limits to men. Until I decided to take the plunge and worked up the courage to just utter the words "can I play with your hair". From that moment forward it becomes so much easier.

First time I tried this I was in high school. I had a long bus ride home and I was friends with a neighbor girl since a young age with pretty blonde hair just past her shoulder blades. Not the best hair I've ever seen, but decent thickness and sleek straight. I thought it looked so soft and dreamed of touching it. I remember thinking up all these scenarios about how I could somehow cop a feel. Tell her she had something in her hair and offer to remove it, or somehow accidentally fall and land with my hands in her hair.

This went on for a couple of years. Then one day I sat behind her on the bus and just out of the blue said "can I play with your hair". To my surprise, her eyes lit up and she said "Of course! I love having my hair played with!" That was that. She let me run my fingers through her corn silk locks the entire ride. It was my first time touching hair, something I yearned to experience for so long. I reveled in how soft it was, better than what I dreamed of. I mentioned to her that she has really soft hair, she thanked me and went on to tell me all about her hair routine as I continued to experience pure ecstasy.

Nearing her stop I thanked her for letting me play with her hair. She turned it around and instead thanked me. I couldn't believe I was being thanked for the thing I dreamed about for so long. The next day on the ride home she sat in the seat in front of me, unzipped her backpack, pulled out a paddle brush, handed it to me and said "I've been looking forward to this all day." If she only knew how much I was too. I was fascinated by how the brush looked and sounded moving through her hair. Also learning how it returned her hair to it's pristine silky soft condition after I've introduced tangles from running my fingers through it.

From that moment onwards she always sat in the seat in front of mine with an excited look on her face knowing I would gladly play with her hair the entire ride. Sadly that was spring of the year I graduated high school and only had this arrangement for a few more months.

Once you get over the initial shock of actually doing something you always dreamed of it becomes easier. After the daily bus experience went on for a few weeks, I worked up the courage to tap shoulder of the girl who sat in front of me in one of my classes. She had super fine dirty blonde hair but it looked really thick because there was a ton of it. For me it was perfect hair. The entire semester I would stare at how thick her ponytail was and daydream about what it felt like.

The day I finally asked her was a movie day in class with the lights dimmed. She wore it down and it looked freshly washed and straightened. After tapping her shoulder I blurted out "can I play with your hair during the movie". She smiled and said yes. Being able to fan her long hair out across my desk and smooth it was heaven. I was really surprised at how heavy yet incredibly soft her hair was. I never worked up the courage to ask her if I could play with her hair again after that day. Something I regret.

This marked the start of my hair journey and I've had a lot of other experiences like these since. I've never truly gone up to a stranger and asked if I could touch or play with their hair. It's always been an acquaintance or significant other. There needs to be a level of trust and that is hard to find with a stranger you just met.

If you're like me and you love the feeling of hair, I suggest you learn how to braid. As I've grown older I've found that this is a great ice breaker. It takes a bit of practice to get the hang of and get good at. But when other women learn you are able to braid hair they will clamour all over you and offer up their hair. I can't count the number of manes I've had the pleasure of experiencing at various parties and events just by mentioning that I know how to make fancy braids.